Fear of losing friendships and having no social life are stumbling blocks that sometimes stand in the way of recovery from alcoholism and drug addiction. Drinking, in particular, often is a social activity. Heading to the bar after a long work week, partying on the weekend with friends, inviting family and neighbors over for wine and dessert are just a few examples of the ways people associate drinking with fun, family and friends. For an alcoholic, activities like these can turn sour. Having a few beers after work becomes a daily occurrence, often lasting well into the night. Partying on the weekend doesn’t mean just a Saturday night bash; it means a continuous three-day binge. The evening dinner party ends up in a shouting match. When alcohol takes over, so-called social drinking turns into problematic drinking. Nonetheless, facing the reality of alcoholism often makes people wonder if they ever will have fun again. They forget that fun has turned into disaster and chaos, and their fear and denial are preventing them from seeking the help they need. They are afraid of change.
Enjoyable Fellowship In Sobriety Depends On Choices
It often comes as a great surprise to people in recovery when they discover that they can still have a social life. It often involves taking the risk of finding new activities to enjoy and making new friends. At the very least, it means making different choices while participating in former activities with old friends. It means drinking water at the bowling alley instead of beer. It means having coffee with the chocolate éclair instead of a liqueur. It means taking a hike in the mountains or going for a walk at the beach and enjoying the scenery and fresh air instead of focusing on the location of the nearest bar. Sober people dance and make music and enjoy art. They laugh and play sports. They support one another in sobriety. They are as social as they want to be, and they do it all without having a hangover the next day.
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