It can be incredibly challenging, frustrating, and heartbreaking to watch a loved one struggling with active addiction. They may be in denial that they have a problem or refuse treatment. There is a saying that is well-known in the recovery community that when it comes to addiction you didn’t cause it, you can’t cure it, and you can’t control it – the three Cs. It is essential to take care of your own health because only then can you be effective in helping others.
Here are a few ways that you can practice self-care:
- Set Boundaries. Don’t be afraid to say no. Have clear rules and expectations in place and stick to them. It can be hard, but you don’t want to be an enabler when it comes to addiction, and having these boundaries can help protect your well-being.
- Seek Support. Even if your loved one doesn’t go to therapy or support group meetings doesn’t mean that you can’t. Surround yourself with others who understand first-hand what you are experiencing. Find people who support and encourage you, who can help you navigate challenging situations, and make you feel good about yourself.
- Take Time for Yourself. Continue doing things that you enjoy. Go to yoga. Have lunch with a friend. Spend an afternoon reading your favorite book or getting your nails done. You likely spend a lot of time worrying about your loved one and trying to help them, but don’t always put your own needs and interests on the back burner. It’s okay to focus on your own mental, physical, and emotional health.
- Ask for Help. Band together with others in order to encourage your loved one to seek treatment. Consider working with a professional to hold an intervention and share your concerns. Working together as a team and having a plan in place can help you get your loved one into a recovery program to overcome addiction.
Caring for someone in active addiction can be stressful and exhausting. Find ways to relax and refocus so you have energy for each day. Educate yourself about addiction so that you can be more understanding of the disease and support your loved one through their recovery journey. In the end, remember that the only person you can control is yourself.
Have peace of mind knowing that you are doing what you can to get someone you care about into an effective treatment program. Work together with the professionals at Seacliff Recovery Center to create a plan and coordinate an intervention. They can guide you through the necessary steps so action can be taken immediately once your loved one agrees to get help. If you’re concerned about a friend or family member’s substance use, contact Seacliff today and find out how we can help.