Addiction impacts the entire family, not just the person misusing drugs or alcohol. It can create a tense environment and lead to issues with health, relationships, finances, trust, careers, and more. Watching a loved one struggling with addiction can be both frustrating and heartbreaking. While ultimately, they are the one who must engage in treatment, there are ways that you can encourage them to seek help.
Educate yourself. Start by learning as much as you can about addition so you have a better understanding of the challenges they are facing and what recovery entails. There are many misconceptions that exist about addiction, so find out the truth. This can also help to arm you with information when you are discussing treatment options with your loved one and working through their concerns or objections.
Express your concern. Individuals struggling with addiction often do a good job of hiding their use from others, or at least they think they do. Let your loved one know that they haven’t seemed like themselves lately, and you’re concerned. Share how their actions or behaviors have impacted you, such as your worry that they’ll get into an accident coming home intoxicated, or how you miss the time you’d spend together on spontaneous date nights. Let them know that you care about them and are worried about their well-being, but make sure you talk during a time when they are not under the influence.
Hold an intervention. If they are not open to your gentle recommendations of seeking treatment, you may have to take a more direct approach by holding an intervention. Talk to an intervention specialist who can help you work through the details and plan things out step-by-step. They can also facilitate the meeting and make arrangements for treatment options.
Let them experience natural consequences. In the throes of addiction, individuals may not recognize the impact or how others have enabled them. It’s time to take a stand and let them experience the consequences. Stop making excuses for their behavior or disappearances, don’t clean up their messes, and avoid going out of your way to help them. If they get arrested, don’t immediately bail them out. If they lose their license, they’ll have to find another way to get around. However, reassure them that you will support their recovery and that you want to see them get better.
Get support for yourself. Even if your loved one is resistant to treatment, you can still seek help for yourself. Attend therapy sessions, family programs, or support groups. Reach out and connect with others who have experienced similar situations. They can help you to work through the challenges and continue encouraging your loved one to enter a treatment program. Take care of yourself.
Seacliff offers a full spectrum of services for addiction treatment ranging from family interventions and detox to residential and outpatient care to aftercare and sober living. Clients are met where they are at in their recovery journey and engage in a program that fits their unique needs and goals. Recovery is possible at Seacliff.