Addiction recovery is a lifestyle. You can’t go back to doing the same things you did before addiction treatment and expect different results. You must change your thoughts, actions, behaviors, and routines to align with what you learned in treatment and developed as a relapse prevention plan. Following through with these strategies and making healthier decisions can help you stay focused on long-term recovery.
Part of this lifestyle change also involves setting boundaries. This applies not only to you as an individual in recovery, but also to your family who is supporting your progress. Everyone must be willing to make changes in their lives.
Establishing Boundaries for Yourself
Ultimately, you are accountable for your recovery. While in rehab, you will learn a great deal about yourself, your struggles with addiction, and how to rebuild your life in sobriety. In order to continue moving forward once you leave treatment, you’ll need to set some boundaries in your own life.
- Choose your friends wisely. Break off unhealthy relationships that may lead to temptation or relapse. Focus on spending time with individuals who support your recovery and don’t put you in uncomfortable situations.
- Know your limits and trust your instincts. Learn how to say no, whether it is to taking on more work than you can handle or going to an event that you feel may be risky to your recovery.
- Make yourself and your recovery a priority. It’s not being selfish; it’s being smart and doing what is right for you. You have worked hard to overcome addiction, so continue on that path. Have confidence in your ability to make good choices and know when to turn to others for support.
Establishing Boundaries as a Family Member
Family members must also learn how to create healthy boundaries. Having a loved one in recovery means that you must make adjustments as well, for their benefit as well as your own. You’ll have your own healing to do, whether you realize it at first or not.
- Don’t micromanage their recovery. Let them relearn how to do things on their own and be accountable for their decisions. You can be supportive without doing everything for them.
- Set expectations so that everyone knows what is and is not acceptable. You don’t want to become an enabler, but you do want to create an environment that is conducive to recovery.
- Create a safe space. Respect that your loved one is in recovery and do not allow drugs or alcohol into your home. Have sparkling cider or other non-alcoholic drinks during celebrations or meals.
- Be assertive. Recognize when others are testing boundaries and stand firm. Encourage open communication to discuss challenges and solutions.
It can take time to adjust to recovery and figure out what works for you and your family, but don’t give up. Be patient and continue to talk through things together. Participating in family programs or therapy can help as well to get everyone on the same page and have guidance in working though difficult situations. Setting healthy boundaries can be a good way to start building a solid foundation and creating a safer environment that supports recovery.
Seacliff Recovery Center works with clients at all stages of treatment and recovery to promote long-term success, connect clients with valuable resources, and develop lasting skills for sobriety. Make your well-being a priority and turn your life around at Seacliff.